Mom, Dad, Brady and me. 1988 |
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Normal or abnormal? THAT is the question.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone..
"Not flesh of my flesh,Nor bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn't grow under my heart,
But in it."
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn't grow under my heart,
But in it."
-Unknown
Me, 2 months old, camping out with my foster dad. September 1984 |
People always ask me, "Gina, when did you find out you were adopted?" I can see them stirring in their own minds, wondering and possibly hoping for that sad story about how my mother and father sat me down on my 8th birthday to tell me, "Oh, by the way, we didn't actually conceive you.. You were adopted. Happy birthday!" Well, I hate to be the bearer of GOOD NEWS, people, but that just wasn't the way it went down. You see that poem up there? "Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone..." My mom used to recite that to my brother and me all the time when we were young. It was her way of letting us know that we were special. And not "little-yellow-bus-to-school" special! We were hand-picked by God to be placed in their family. My mom and dad couldn't have children of their own. They tried for quite some time, but in the end it was obvious that it just wasn't going to work for them. So they turned towards adoption. First came my brother, Brady, in 1978. He was red-headed and smiling from day one. Then, 6 years later, I was born. It was July 1, 1984, when I came into this world. I was born in the Toledo Hospital to my biological mother, who was 18 at the time, and my biological father, who was 19. The only things that my parents really knew about them was that they were young and probably couldn't afford me. That was it. That was all I really knew growing up, and I was fine with that. But I always wondered, "Who do I look like? Do I have any brothers and sisters?" Sometimes I would be at the grocery store and across the aisle I would see a woman who kind of looked like me. Maybe she was kind of short, or had green eyes like mine, or even the same color skin as me. And I would think to myself, "Maybe that's her. Maybe that is my biological mom." The possibility was always there, haunting me everywhere I went. I tried to hide it the best I could, but sometimes I would make my curiosity known to my parents. They told me from the beginning that if I ever wanted to reach out and find my biological family that they would be there to support me no matter what. You see, it wasn't that I was craving a mother and father. I already had a mom and dad, and they were the best ones that any child could ask for. I grew up in a beautiful home, got a great education, had a family that accepted me for who I was, and was loved to the very core. It was the unknown that was killing me. The thought that my own flesh and blood could be just miles down the road from me continued to tug at my brain. I would swat the thoughts away for days, even months at a time. But then, just as a quickly, they would pop back up and flick me in the forehead. I had to do something to satisfy my intense desire to know who, and where, I came from. But what could I do? Weren't those kind of secrets tucked safely away in the bowels of Toledo?
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